Everyone needs an anchor in life … to keep you steady. Life is full of ups and downs and then there are times when you are completely shaken (so life is sideways too). Early on, you give too much importance to the random ups and downs and then something called 'maturity' and 'growing up' happens to you. And you begin to take things in your stride. But life is not out of its tools and it gives you some rocking experiences that shake you up.
Irrespective of the stage in life and whether you are mildly affected or completely shaken, you need someone who will help you through. They are your anchor. They are the ones who show you the right path, who shine the light (and often are the light themselves) when the world 'seems' to be dark all around you. They are the ones who truly care about you and are ready to hold your hand when you feel lost.
For me, it has been my elder brother who has been the 'rock' and 'anchor' of my life. He is like … Always there for me. Calm and serene - as if there is no problem in his life and he is ready to solve all of yours. In the toughest of times, he was the personification of calm and peace. It was often irritating for others to watch him calm while everybody is tensed and worried.
I always thought he never had problems (I was a child then). Only after 'growing up', I realized that it wasn't that he did not have the multitudes of problems of his own; the secret was in his way of handling and treating them. He had his own problems to tackle but he would be ready to advice you on yours. Also, what I learnt from him about handling problems was his clear objectivity in handling them.
His Golden Rule for problems: If there is a problem and it can be solved, then stop worrying and start working on the solution. No need to worry. If there is a problem and it cannot be solved, then stop worrying. If it cannot be solved, then ask for help and if it cannot be solved even by others, then stop thinking about it completely. No amount of worrying will solve the problem. Learn to accept it and live with it. SIMPLE. In summary – there is no need to worry in either case.
He has always given the right advise to me … encouraging me to 'look up' from the situation of calamity and rise above the problems. He used to say that to solve a problem, you got to lift your level. You cannot solve a problem at the same level of intellect at which they were created. Profound words indeed.
Just few days ago, a mutual friend was tensed about finding a rented accommodation and when he talked to my brother, he seemed surprised. He said that in this age of technology how can you worry about something trivial as that. Just look up. Our friend asked 'where?' and my brother again said 'Just Look Up' and this time he had mischief in his eyes.
He then told our friend about Housing.com and https://housing.com/lookup
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